I have been run off my feet the past few months working my day job, re-applying to keep said job, managing volunteer commitments, juggling the logistics of running a household, being a wife and mother to two children, keeping up with learning, social and other commitments, travelling and launching my business supporting new mothers overcome overwhelm and loneliness and feel more connected, supported and heard in their parenting journey.
Life is crazy busy!!!
All the while through this I have been learning new skills, taking risks and doing some serious inner work on my emotional blocks, confidence, sense of worth, and sense of meaning and purpose in life.
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not trying to wear busy-ness as a badge. I’ve simply found those amazing things in life that inspire and fulfill me, and I’ve been grabbing at them from all angles with fierce passion.
The only thing is, when I am so busy, I often forget to exercise boundaries and while I’m grabbing at life with such enthusiasm for so long, it’s inevitable that something has to give. There’s still only 24 hours in a day and 7 days in a week – and only so much a girl can do by herself!
If I’m not careful, I’ll forget to invest in me, listen to my body, respect my own needs… and when this happens, you guessed it… I run around like a chook with my head cut off… I drop the ball(s)… I retreat… or I get sick.
So what does making the time to invest in me, listen to my body and respect my own needs look like?
Well for me…
It’s having a shower to wind down at the end of the day.
It’s warming up a heat pack, putting my slippers on and making myself a cup of tea.
It’s finding time to read a magazine or few pages of a book.
It’s making my bed with fresh sheets and popping the electric blanket on.
It’s saying no to invitations.
It’s taking a mental health day from work, or leaving early.
It’s taking a walk in the sunshine during my lunch break.
It’s making sure I’m drinking water in the day
It’s cooking a proper breakfast before I leave the house.
It’s reading to my kids at the end of the day.
It’s asking for a hug.
It’s making the choice to let go of the ‘shoulds’, as much as possible, and just go to bed early.
It’s not answering the phone when I’m in the middle of something – or turning the phone off completely.
It’s calling a friend and sharing the load.
It’s asking for help.
It’s accepting that asking for help is a sign of strength and self awareness and not a weakness.
It’s letting others do things instead of me – even if it’s not quite how I would do it myself.
It’s acknowledging that I am not a super hero. I am just a person and I cant do it all, all the time.
What does it look like when you invest in yourself, listen to your body and respect your own needs?