For the past ten days I’ve enjoyed the fresh, smoke free air of Melbourne, and today I am heading back home to Canberra.
I am so grateful to have had a week of respite. My daughter’s cough subsided, we enjoyed the traditional summertime fun of beach and pool trips as well as the Christmas time shopping, gift giving and gathering with friends and family.
The unique challenges of this summer’s bush fires, combined the traditional new year reflections has had me really thinking.
For the past 4 years I have adopted a philosophy of not partaking in new years resolutions. I was never much of a resolutioner before then either, but these past few years I have adopted the concept of one word that encompasses my yearly focus.
One word that:
- articulates what I want to focus on
- embodies what I want to think, feel, see, say, do or be
- helps guide my decisions and actions all year round
- is not defined by success or failure but is a guiding principle that can be applied in many little ways
- sets an intention to create the life I want this year
For 2020 – this new year, new decade and new focus – my word is: Enough
For me, “Enough” is about:
- Having and showing gratitude for all that I have already
- Moving away from perfection and toward action
- Knowing when to say no, stop, let go or ask for help
- Refocusing on my values and using these to inform when and what to keep, do or say yes to
- Finding moments of joy in the little things that may have been overlooked previously
So what about you?
What is going to be your word for 2020?
How do you want to shape your thinking, feeling, being and doing?
What do you want to focus on and manifest for yourself and your family this year?
Feeling stuck? Not sure where to start?
Choosing a word can be tricky, so here’s 7 steps that will help you find the right word for you:
Step 1: Reflect and ask yourself the following questions:
- “What do I enjoy and am good at?”
- “What motivates and energises me?”
- “What am I missing in my life, or want more of?”
- “How do I want to feel in the next 12 months?”
- “What qualities or traits do I want to invite more of?”
- “What drains and/or stresses me?”
- “What do I want less of in my life?
- “What do I want to achieve this year?”
- “How do I define success?”
- “What am I most afraid of?”
- “What is the most important thing in my life?”
- “Who are the most important people in my life?
- “What do I want others to remember me for?”
- “What do I really need right now?”
Step 2: Make a word list. Nouns, verbs, adjectives – anything that feels good to you. Write down all the words that call out to you when you ask yourself the above questions. This is a brain dump – don’t over think it or get caught up in grammar or spelling, just write them all down as they come.
Step 3: Look for patterns. Do words appear multiple times? Are there groups of similar words?Is there an overarching theme in your responses?
Step 4: Narrow it down to just one word. Trust your instincts – are there any words that really jump out to you?
Step 5: Test and confirm your word. Take your time to sit with your word. Mull it over in your head for a few days or weeks. Share it with your friends and family (or in the comments below) – announcing the word to others can help you refine or own it and keep you accountable, focused and supported. Tweak or change your word to be sure its the right one for you.
Step 6: Document your word. Write it. Decorate it. Illustrate it. Collage it. Whatever works for you.
Step 7: Display your word somewhere that you can see it regularly. Make it your phone or computer wallpaper. Stick it on the back of the bathroom door. Attach it to your car sun visor.
Tips for choosing your word.
- It might be tempting to default to something convenient, but your word needs to be distinct so it can live with you throughout the next 12 months.
- Abstract words like courage, style, honour, mindful need to be contextualised so they can become tangible and real.
- Active words like create, ignite, and build often come to life through projects.
- Aspect/Archetype words like tiger, explorer, goddess are role based words that inspire you to adopt the qualities of something. If using these ask yourself “What would a [insert word here] do?
- Avoid choosing words that limit you or are directly anchored to outcomes. Your word is meant to inspire you and create opportunity for you to grow and adapt.
- Don’t get too caught up in what other people think about your word. While it does need to be something you’re willing to share with others, it is yours and noone else’s. Be bold. Be risky. Own it.
- Choose a word that makes you a little uncomfortable. It should sit just outside your comfort zone to allow you to grow and stretch.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
Feel free to share your word and why you chose it in the comments below 🙂